I paid money for THAT?
How many times have you walked away from a Tarot or psychic reading uttering those very words?
Yeah, it's happened to me, and I'm sure it will happen to you someday if it hasn't already. No reading may be perfect, but some definitely deserve to be at the bottom of the dust bin. I mean, if that voice inside of you is saying, "this is pure crap," odds are it is.
Most of the time, we would just shrug our shoulders and shake it off. And most of the time, this is the right thing to do, particularly if the central message doesn't sit right with you. For instance, I once asked for advice about a relationship I was in, and I received the response, "He's not the one for you." Well, that didn't feel right to me. This man was special, and I could actually see us growing old together. So, I ignored her and happily married him! Ha! Thank you for my reading, dear Tarot reader, but no thanks!
Sometimes, though, you may be throwing away a perfectly valuable reading for the wrong reasons. And yes, I'm going to say it - sometimes the problem isn't your reader. A reading is a three-way process between you, the reader, and Spirit. Seeing through the fog of this partnership could help you avoid tossing a highly valuable reading in the trash.
So, here is my advice for avoiding a miserable outcome.
Discuss the reading with your reader...
I'll admit it - we cannot always connect with our clients. Ever hear the saying, "I just can't read" someone? Well, I think a Tarot reader must have coined that phrase, because that's what happens. It's like there's a wall between you and the client, and the reading never really gets off the ground.
However, I have had times where the reading may not hit the mark 100%, but where the post-reading conversation really brings the cards alive. For instance, I once had a client whose reading was actually about a dream she had had, but which she hadn't mentioned prior to the reading. It was only when we talked about the cards in more detail--after the reading was concluded--that she mentioned the dream. From there, everything flowed.
In short, the post-reading conversation matters.
Never hesitate to follow up with your reader if you're not happy. If a card struck you as important, ask for more information about it. If the message seemed off, then be honest with your reader and ask for more discussion of the cards. The point of any Tarot reading is to get you the information that is most helpful to you in your life at that particular time. If the reading fails you, then we've missed this opportunity. Let's not let that happen.
...And if that fails, file it away for later
Even if your reading goes down like a lead balloon, hold onto it. You may not realize it at the time, but Spirit may have taken over and given you a different message, one that's vitally important to you but that you may not understand yet.
This recently happened to me. About two years ago, I asked a psychic friend of mine for information about a loved-one's passing. She performed the reading, but I walked out of her office feeling confused. None of what she said applied to how this person had died or the situation around it. I had the utmost confidence in my friend's ability, but I thought perhaps she was just having an off day. It happens, I thought.
So, I put the reading, which was written down on a sheet of paper, in a drawer and forgot about it.
Well, about a year later, my father passed away. He had been sick for awhile so his death was not surprising, but I was deeply troubled by the fact that I could not fly home in time to say goodbye in person. Some Angelic presence must have sensed my disquiet, because it was not long after his death that I found my friend's reading. There on the paper was written "forgive yourself for not being there."
At that moment, her reading suddenly made perfect sense. I realized this was me she was referring to, that the death she discussed was my dad's, and that much of his passing was pre-ordained. To say I felt relief is putting it too mildly. It was like a void was suddenly filled in my heart. I felt peace.
Handle With Care
Friends, please hear my plea. Do not ever just discard a reading out of hand. Really spending some time with it, poking and analyzing it. And if it still doesn't resonate with you, then print it or write it out and file it away. There may very well be valuable messages for you in there if you just give things time to reveal themselves. After all, the money's been paid. What do you have to lose?