We've all had bad Tarot readings, right? I had one myself just a few weeks ago. Everyone seems to use the cards a bit differently, and this woman definitely had her own style. In fact, she barely even looked at the cards. Instead, she just jabbered on and on about things I could have read on Google. What I had wanted was insight about my life, but what I got was a business tutorial. Umm, no thanks!
However, we're fooling ourselves if we think it's all up to fate. I mean, really, what is it about a Tarot reading that makes us lose our senses? We throw ourselves over to our readers with such reckless abandon. Breathless, we ask/order them, "Just read the cards! Whatever they say! Just put me out of my misery!" Sigh!
The problem with such an approach is that it leaves too much to chance. If you want some guarantee of a quality Tarot reading, there's a few things you can do to increase your chances of such a result.
Here are my top five tips:
1. Go into the reading with a specific question or area of focus in mind. I know the "general reading," or the "let's just see what the cards say reading," is mighty tempting. We want to be surprised with what emerges, right? We believe this is a dialogue with Spirit and so what Spirit has to say is so intensely interesting to us. But then, perhaps, your reader starts in on a subject you're not thrilled with. And suddenly, it's getting away from you...
Instead, get the reading started off on the right foot with a specific question or area of focus. Don't forget that you're paying good money for this reading. Don't you deserve answers to your most burning questions? If you come into the reading with those, then at least you'll be addressing something that will affect your life. You also will have just cut your chances of disappointment with your reading in half.
2. Provide your Tarot reader some background information on your question. When I do a reading, I'm multitasking big time. I'm listening to my inner guidance, gazing at the images for messages, and looking at the relationships between the cards. What your background information does for me is amplify that process. Sometimes I can even anticipate cards based on what you've told me, allowing us to dive right into the conversation with Spirit. Indeed, with some background, I feel wrapped in your world and can engage in the conversation between your energy and Spirit that much better.
So, don't hold back. Share as much as you feel comfortable. Your reading will be more detailed and insightful for it.
3. Start by giving your Tarot reader the benefit of the doubt (also known as Don’t Offend Your Tarot Reader). Readings are intimate experiences. Your energies are mixing, your emotions are merging....some people even join hands when they're face to face. In such a close atmosphere, the last thing you want to do is piss off your Tarot reader. It creates a negative vibe that risks spoiling the trust between you and jeopardizing the reading overall.
How might this happen? It may not be intentional, but it's when you start the reading by challenging the reader's ability. Perhaps the reader starts off with some small-talk like, "Oh, so I see from your uniform that you're a doctor?" And then you reply, "You're the Tarot reader. You tell me." Ouch. Ok, now I know that you're a bit hostile, and I tense up a bit. I may even get a little angry.
If you believe every Tarot reader is crook until proven otherwise, then you're just going to attract more crooks to you. Most readers are actually looking to help you. Let's keep the energy in that place, at least to start, ok? Give me the benefit of the doubt, and I'll give you all that I've got in return.
4. Give your expectations for the reading up front. One of the best readings I ever gave was in response to a woman who told me from the start what she wanted from her reading. It was a simple sentence, "I hope this reading gives me a sense of direction in a clear and concise way." While this is perhaps an obvious request, it set me on notice. This was because she set the intention of the reading for me. She wasn't going to make me figure it out. She knew what she wanted, and I could feel myself respond to her focus. So I did everything I could to satisfy her requirements, and it worked out beautifully. I highly recommend it!
5. Ask follow-up questions. I'm always a little disappointed when someone gets a reading over email and then disappears from my life. It's not because I wanted the praise or feedback - well, not every time at least! It's because there may actually be more to discover if we talked about it. I've had wonderful insights emerge even in this "after" phase of the reading. There was one time where the reading made absolutely no sense to the client, but she asked me about it, so we looked at it again together. Through that process, we discovered much more about what was happening. The cards were actually referencing a dream she had had! I don't think I would have known that if she we hadn't talked about it. It was both incredibly cool and very useful.
The bottom line is there's no harm, and there may even be something to gain, in engaging after the reading is over. So, get your money's worth and hit "reply."
Listen, there are going to be times when you hate the message, the messenger, or something else. Just know that there are some ways to minimize those chances. Arm yourself with some of these tools, and your reader will know you're not just any customer. You will get their attention, and they will be at your service 110%.
I know I would be!